Last week I wrote an article entitled 7 MEN A WOMAN SHOULD NEVER DATE OR MARRY and I got a lot of responses, especially from women. To give a balanced view, I felt it is best I write a similar list of types of women that men should avoid. I created the list using what I have heard, observed, read and have seen over the years as a journalist, pastor, communicator, writer and social observer. The truth is that if you are a woman and you want to get married, you need to be wise and smart about how you carry yourself. It means you have to recognise what you are doing wrong and ask yourself the question – will good men be attracted to the type of woman I am portraying myself to be or will they be repelled?
7 Women A Man Should Never Date or Marry
So women, consider the list below and figure out if you’ve ever been described as one of these 7 women. Men, I hope this will help you recognise the types of women to steer clear from when you are looking for your life partner.
1. Miss Boss
This calibre of woman feels she is born to rule, dominate and give instructions to everyone, everywhere, any time. If you ask her about it, she will tell you that she just can’t help herself. It seems as though being bossy is part of her genetic make-up. The unfortunate thing is that men like such women at first. They find her bossy nature interesting because it makes for ‘lively’ conversation. You never know what will come out of her mouth and the spontaneity of her thoughts is entertaining. But there is a difference between a woman who is assertive and one who is bossy. An assertive woman is not simply interested in being right. She wants what is best for both of you. A bossy woman simply wants her own way, when she wants it and how she wants it. But once a man begins to feel like he is a pupil and his girlfriend/wife is a headmistress, he will do whatever it takes to either get expelled or expel her.
2. Miss Player
If you think only men are good ‘players’, think again. This is a woman men fear because we don’t really know what her intentions are. She creates an almost fail-proof game plan to help her land a man. Her strategy is legendary and men find her irresistible because they don’t how long she’ll play hard-to-get. She says enough and does enough to keep your interest piqued. And what she is promising makes it sound like she can be whatever woman you want her to be. Today, she is strong like Kerry Washington. Tomorrow, she has a dark seductiveness like Megan Fox. The next day, sweet and your best friend like Sanaa Lathan. You think you know better, and you do, but the temptation to make a move and date her is too much, and before you know it, you are entangled in a relationship with a woman who will never give you what you really want. Besides, you’re not the only guy she’s ‘dating’.
3. Miss ‘I Will Change Him’
She won’t say it outright, but secretly, this woman feels like she is a ‘Deputy Jesus’! She goes to town preaching that she loves her man just the way he is, but all that is empty talk because a few weeks later, she starts suggesting and encouraging him to make some changes. Regardless of whether the end of your last relationship was your fault or not, this woman is determined to make you become the man she believes you are supposed to be. And not who God has created you to be. She wants you to change for her own selfish benefit. Not for God’s glory. Don’t let a woman think she can change you. If God is not involved, the change will not be permanent.
4. Miss Jealousy/Miss Gossip
A word of warning: this woman sometimes comes as a combo, Jealousy AND Gossip! She is very distrusting of her man and a lot of it is because of her past experiences. She is always looking for something wrong in the relationship. When you first meet her, she will be quick to tell you what her ex did and didn’t do, and what she will and will not tolerate. So naturally, a man will assure her of his faithfulness and how different he is from all her exes. But months later, regardless of how well you have treated her, the accusations start. You didn’t answer the phone immediately. You didn’t reply to her messages/emails immediately. If you go to a party or function together, she is right next to you like a shadow. On the gossip side, she loves to hear about people and talk about others. She initially comes across as being very conversational but it makes you wonder about what she says behind your back. Men accommodate her for just a short time before jumping off with no chance of ‘jumping the broom’.
5. Miss ‘You Are My Life’
She is so into you when you first meet and you like it so much. You are the centre of her world. Your ego gets a nice little boost. You tell your friends that she is amazing and there is nothing she won’t do for you. A refreshing change from your stingy ex. But after a while, you realise it is actually borderline obsession. This woman is different to Miss Jealousy/Gossip because her issue is not really that she doesn’t trust you. Her issue is not that you will leave her because you met someone else who is better. She is scared you will leave her because she is not good enough. She has a self-esteem issue. Miss Jealousy/Gossip has a superiority complex. Miss ‘You Are My Life’ has an inferiority complex. So she loses herself in the relationship. There is a quick test you can do to check if you might be with such a woman. Ask what her hobbies are and how often she makes time for them. If she has no hobbies, trust me, you are about to become her No 1 hobby and her ‘life’.
6. Miss ‘Looking For A Daddy’
She is stuck in her teens trying to get her daddy to notice her and give her some approval. Maybe her daddy never showed his love or affirmed her enough. Maybe he was abusive. Maybe she has never met her daddy. Now she dates older men in search of a father figure and not a boyfriend or husband, unfortunately. In the beginning, a man likes the fact that she seeks approval and engages him in everything. You take pride in being able to give her advice and teach her things about the world. But you will soon realise that you are in a relationship with a woman who wants to be a child and not a lover. Beware of a woman who calls you ‘Big Daddy’!
7. Miss ‘Keeping Up with The Motsepes aka Joneses’
This woman wants to be like all the rich and famous people. She loves Kim Kardashian but is jealous of her also. She is constantly comparing herself with all the people she sees on E! and VuzuTV. What they have that she and her man don’t have, what they drive, where they go on holiday, what they wear and where they live. Of course, this is bound to put a lot of pressure on the man who doesn’t understand why she isn’t appreciating what they have together. There is nothing wrong with a woman who is ambitious, but be careful that you don’t date or marry a woman who suffers from chronic dissatisfaction. She is likely to dump you for a man who fits her idea of the good life.
Men, watch out for these kinds of women. Take time getting to know a woman before you commit your time, energy, resources and love to a pretender. You should be with a woman that is happy, modest and easy to get along with, and who also has great principles.
Let me know if you think of any other types of women that are unattractive to men.
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